NATALIJA HAYTERPSYCHOTHERAPY & COUNSELLINGThoughts on therapy, mind and relationships.
Plain-English writing on what therapy is, how it works, and the things people most often wonder before they begin.
Fear of abandonment: why it happens and how to heal
How anxious attachment can shape relationships, why familiar coping strategies backfire, and practical ways to begin changing the pattern.
Read →What is anxiety? How it works in the brain and body
Why anxiety feels so physical, how the threat system learns, and what CBT, psychoanalytic therapy and practical techniques can change.
Read →Health anxiety: when worry about illness takes over
Why checking and reassurance make it worse — and what actually helps.
Read →OCD: more than being tidy
What obsessive-compulsive disorder really is, beyond the stereotypes, and the therapy that works.
Read →When perfectionism hurts more than it helps
How perfectionism quietly drives anxiety, procrastination and burnout.
Read →Could it be adult ADHD? Understanding late recognition
What late-recognised ADHD looks like, and how therapy helps alongside diagnosis.
Read →Attachment styles: how early bonds shape adult love
Anxious, avoidant, secure — what attachment reveals, and how patterns change.
Read →Panic attacks: what's happening and how to cope
What a panic attack actually is, why it isn't dangerous, and what helps.
Read →Seasonal depression: when winter lowers your mood
Understanding SAD — the signs, the science, and what helps beyond waiting for spring.
Read →Five myths about therapy that hold people back
The misconceptions that stop people getting help — and the reality.
Read →The quiet weight of loneliness
Why loneliness affects even the well-connected, and how therapy helps.
Read →What to expect from longer-term therapy
How deeper work happens, who it suits, and what change looks like over time.
Read →Am I depressed? A free, confidential self-test
How a free self-test can help, what your score means, and what works.
Read →Do I have anxiety? A free self-test
The line between worry and anxiety, a free check, and why therapy helps.
Read →Do I need therapy? Signs it might help
You don't need to be in crisis — the signs therapy could help.
Read →Therapy or medication? How to think about the choice
A balanced look — and why it's often not either/or.
Read →How to choose a therapist
The qualifications that matter, the questions to ask, and why fit decides most.
Read →The signs of burnout you might be ignoring
More than tiredness — the warning signs and what helps.
Read →High-functioning anxiety: when you look fine but don't feel it
When anxiety hides behind success and competence.
Read →Understanding trauma: why the past won't stay in the past
What trauma really is and how it surfaces years later.
Read →Five evidence-based ways to calm your nervous system
Research-backed techniques to settle stress in the moment.
Read →What is psychotherapy? (And how is it different from counselling?)
What psychotherapy is, how it differs from counselling, what to expect.
Read →What actually happens in a first therapy session?
Nothing to prepare — what the first conversation really involves.
Read →What is CBT — and is it right for you?
The world's most researched talking therapy, explained without jargon.
Read →What to expect from couples therapy
Not a courtroom: how couples work actually works.
Read →Thinking about therapy?
An initial assessment is an unhurried first conversation — online by private video.
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