NATALIJA HAYTERPSYCHOTHERAPY & COUNSELLING"I'm so OCD about my desk" is one of the most misused phrases in everyday speech. Real obsessive-compulsive disorder has little to do with liking things tidy, and a great deal to do with distress.
The actual mechanism
OCD has two parts. Obsessions are intrusive, unwanted thoughts, images or urges that cause intense anxiety — often about harm, contamination, morality or symmetry. Compulsions are the behaviours or mental rituals performed to neutralise that anxiety. The compulsion brings brief relief, which teaches the brain to repeat it, and the disorder entrenches.
It's the distress, not the theme
The content varies enormously and is often distressing precisely because it is repugnant to the person — intrusive violent or taboo thoughts are common and do not reflect who someone is. The hallmark of OCD is not the thought but the anguish and the ritual it drives.
What works
OCD responds well to a specific form of CBT — exposure and response prevention — which helps you face the anxiety without performing the compulsion, breaking the cycle that sustains it. It takes courage and support, and it works.
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Natalija Hayter is a BABCP-registered psychotherapist with over a decade of clinical experience across the NHS, the voluntary sector and private practice, trained at the Tavistock and AGIP. She offers CBT, psychoanalytic and relational therapy in Pimlico, London and online, in English, Latvian and Russian. More about Natalija
Last reviewed: June 2026 by Natalija Hayter, BABCP-registered psychotherapist.